Every January, we perform the same ritual. We make promises to ourselves: lose weight, save money, read more books, drink less wine, and finally organize that junk drawer that’s been chaos since 2019.
We treat the new year like a blank slate, convinced that this time, this year, we’ll finally become the person we’ve always wanted to be. By February, most of these resolutions have quietly disappeared, replaced by the comfortable rhythms of who we actually are.
But here’s the resolution nobody makes, the one that might actually change your life: Question one belief you inherited but never chose.
Not your habit of hitting snooze. Not your relationship with carbs. Your actual beliefs about life, death, meaning, and purpose. The stories you tell yourself about how the world works. The assumptions you’ve carried since childhood that shape everything you do, think, and feel.
Because, unlike that gym membership you’ll abandon by Valentine’s Day, examining your beliefs can transform not just your year, but your entire understanding of who you are.
The Beliefs We Inherit Without Noticing
Most of us spend our lives carrying beliefs we never consciously chose. We inherit them from parents, teachers, communities, and cultures. They’re woven into the background of our existence so seamlessly that we don’t even recognize them as beliefs. They’re just… reality.
You might believe that success means a certain career, a certain income, a certain lifestyle, because that’s what success meant in your family. You might believe that expressing emotion is a weakness or a strength, depending on the messages you absorbed growing up. You might believe certain religious truths not because you’ve examined them, but because everyone around you believed them first.
These inherited beliefs aren’t necessarily wrong. Some of them serve us beautifully. But many of us have never stopped to ask: Do I actually believe this, or am I just believing what I was taught to believe?
The difference matters because the beliefs we’ve examined and chosen have power. Beliefs we’ve inherited without question become invisible cages.

When Grief Forces the Question
In Joseph’s Letter, Michael Battersby doesn’t choose to examine his beliefs. Grief forces him to. When his wife Margaret dies, all the comfortable religious assurances he’s believed his entire life suddenly feel hollow. “She’s in a better place.” “You’ll see her again.” “God has a plan.”
These phrases, meant to comfort, become unbearable questions. Is she in a better place? Will he see her again? And if he can’t know for certain, what was the point of believing it at all?
So Michael does something radical: he searches for proof. He becomes obsessed with finding Joseph’s Letter, an ancient document that might prove the Shroud of Turin is authentic, which would mean the resurrection was real, which would mean Margaret still exists somewhere, somehow, beyond death.
His journey isn’t about losing faith. It’s about refusing to accept inherited certainty when his heart demands real answers.
Most of us won’t go to Michael’s extremes. But we all reach moments when inherited beliefs stop working. Sometimes it’s grief. Sometimes it’s trauma. Sometimes it’s just growing up and realizing that the stories we were told don’t match the reality we’re living.
These moments are invitations. Not to abandon everything we believe, but to examine whether we believe it or we’re just pretending we do.
The Difference Between Belief and Certainty
Here’s what makes this resolution so uncomfortable: examining your beliefs means accepting that you might be wrong.
We’re not taught to do this. We’re taught that strong believers are certain believers. That doubt is weakness. That questioning is betrayal. So we perform certainty even when we don’t feel it. We defend beliefs we’ve never actually examined because examining them feels like admitting defeat.
But certainty isn’t the same as belief. Certainty is what you perform for other people. Belief is what you hold when nobody’s watching.
You can believe something deeply while acknowledging you might be wrong. You can have faith while leaving room for doubt. You can hold religious convictions while questioning religious institutions. You can love the teachings while recognizing the Church’s failures.
This nuance terrifies people. Because if we admit we don’t know everything for certain, what do we have left?
We have something better: honest faith. Faith that’s chosen, not inherited. Faith that’s examined, not assumed. Faith that can withstand questions because it was built through questions.
What Happens When You Start Questioning
When you start examining inherited beliefs, several things happen. None of them are comfortable. All of them are necessary.
First, you realize how many of your beliefs aren’t actually yours. You thought you believed certain things about success, morality, relationships, or spirituality. Then you start asking why you believe them and discover you don’t have an answer beyond “that’s what I was taught.”
Second, you lose certainty. This feels terrifying. Certainty is comfortable. Doubt is destabilizing. But certainty without examination is just performed confidence. Real belief can hold uncertainty.
Third, you disappoint people. When you start questioning inherited beliefs, people who share those beliefs feel threatened. Your doubt becomes an accusation. Your questions sound like betrayal. This is especially true in religious communities where questioning is equated with losing faith.
Fourth, you build something real. Once you’ve examined your beliefs and chosen which ones to keep, they become yours. Not your parents’. Not your community’s. Yours. And that gives them a power inherited beliefs never had.

The Beliefs Worth Examining This January
So what beliefs should you question? Here are the big ones, the beliefs that shape everything else:
Your beliefs about death. Do you believe in an afterlife? Heaven? Reincarnation? Nothingness? And more importantly, why do you believe it? Is it because you’ve examined the possibilities, or because the alternative is too terrifying to consider?
Your beliefs about meaning. Do you believe life has inherent meaning, or that we create our own? Do you believe in a divine plan, or do you believe things happen randomly? And how does that belief actually affect how you live?
Your beliefs about morality. Where do your moral convictions come from? Religious teaching? Cultural norms? Personal experience? And when those sources contradict each other, which one wins?
Your beliefs about institutions. Do you trust the institutions you belong to? Religious organizations? Political parties? Educational systems? And if you don’t trust the institution, can you still value what it represents?
Your beliefs about yourself. This might be the hardest one. What do you believe about your own worth, capability, and purpose? And how much of that belief was formed by messages you absorbed before you were old enough to question them?
These aren’t easy questions. But that’s the point. Easy answers are usually inherited answers. Real answers require work.
6 Steps to Actually Do This Resolution
So how do you examine beliefs you’ve held your entire life? Here’s a framework that works:
- Pick one belief to examine. Don’t try to question everything at once. That’s overwhelming. Pick one significant belief and commit to really thinking about it.
- Ask yourself why you believe it. Not whether it’s true. Why do you believe it? Is it because you’ve examined the evidence? Because someone you trust told you? Because the alternative is unbearable?
- Consider the opposite. What if you’re wrong? Not in a catastrophic way, just hypothetically. What if the belief you hold isn’t accurate? How would that change how you live?
- Read perspectives that challenge you. Find thoughtful people who believe differently. Not to convert you, but to show you there are other ways of seeing the world. This is where fiction like Joseph’s Letter becomes valuable. Stories let us explore challenging ideas in safe ways.
- Give yourself permission to doubt. Doubt isn’t betrayal. It’s honesty. If your belief can’t withstand questions, it wasn’t very strong to begin with.
- Decide consciously. After examining the belief, decide if you still hold it. Maybe you do. Maybe you can modify it. Maybe you let it go. Whatever you choose, it’s now your choice, not an inherited assumption.
Why This Matters More Than Your Other Resolutions
Here’s the truth about New Year’s resolutions: most of them are about control. We want to control our bodies, our schedules, and our productivity. We want to feel like we’re improving ourselves through sheer willpower.
But examining your beliefs isn’t about control. It’s about authenticity. It’s about living according to what you actually believe rather than what you were taught to believe. And that changes everything.
When you live according to examined beliefs, your decisions make sense. Your priorities align. Your life feels more coherent because you’re not carrying contradictions you’ve never acknowledged.
You stop performing certainty and start living honestly. You stop defending beliefs you don’t actually hold. You stop pretending faith means never having questions.
And paradoxically, this makes your beliefs stronger. Because faith tested is more resilient than faith protected. Beliefs you’ve chosen have more power than beliefs you’ve inherited.
The Invitation
This January, while everyone else is meal prepping and buying gym memberships, consider a different resolution: Question one inherited belief.
Not to destroy it. Not to become cynical. But to find out if what you believe is actually what you believe, or if you’re just carrying someone else’s certainty.
Read something challenging. Ask uncomfortable questions. Sit with doubt. Let yourself not know for a while.
Because the goal isn’t to have all the answers, the goal is to make sure your beliefs are yours.
Michael Battersby’s search for Joseph’s Letter is extreme. Most of us won’t travel to Egypt searching for ancient scrolls. But we can all do the deeper work of examining what we believe and why we believe it.
That’s the resolution nobody makes, but everyone should. Because, unlike the gym membership, this one might actually change your life.
Want to explore these questions through a story? Joseph’s Letter follows Michael Battersby as grief forces him to examine everything he thought he knew about faith, death, and meaning. Download the first chapter free and start your own journey of questioning.

















